WHY????

Why is it that either you are TOO fat or TOO skinny and need to eat more with asian parents/family???

Honestly when I met my DH he was the biggest F.O.B. and skinny boy I ever saw. Granted I was only 18 and just out of highschool. But still - he was a skinny boy. And over the years he has learned how to work out so that he bulks up instead of just staying small. He to me now if PERFECT! I couldn't ask for a nicer looking husband. He is trying to work out again. But no thanks to his family they tell him that he is FAT. Of course he maybe fat if you are refering to how he used to be over 10 years ago. I don't want a stick for a husband. But then again his mom complains that our son is small and not eating enough. And giving us unsolicated advice. Why can't more traditional asian families give you compliments instead of insults?

I honestly haven't heard anything positive from his mom since we got engaged.. It started with my engagement diamond was a tiny thing to why aren't you giving me more grandchildren. You need to have 3 babies since I had three.. ummm lady we are in 2007 we think about what we can afford not how many children can i have.

I am now trying to learn the 'in one ear and out the other'. Since I can not speak up for myself and my husband doesn't for our son or me. There isn't anything else I can do that won't seem disrespectful. So this is what I have to do. But let me tell you it's hard to bit my tongue when I am the one who always expresses myself. So I guess I will have to learn to use the I am looking at you but not listening. The only way to get my feelings not hurt.