Selling a place..

I never knew how much it took to get a place ready to sell. I know have a better understanding.. one day and section of the place at a time. You have to clean the place from top to bottom.. and then you can evaluate the place and see what you will need to do to get the home in a 'show' ready atmosphere. We have gone to many open houses. It's different from home to home. For instance, we have gone to a house where they obviously didn't care about how the house looked. Because one of the bedrooms were not only cluttered with crap but the bed was just the mattress on the ground.. with the covers ruffled up and clothes all over. to the kitchen not being nice.. and then to where the owners obviously do not live in the place anymore and either it is empty or 'staged' where they rented the furniture. i appreciate seeing furniture in a place. it gives me a better understanding of how our things will look. plus when i look at homes i open up all the doors and cabinets to see everything. and what's inside. yes i am nosey...

so with that i started to clean the place.. now i have decided to pack items that we won't need or use for the next 3 or so month.. this will get the clutter out. and by cleaning and getting ready it is making me throw stuff out that we don't need anymore. so i started last night by cleaning my closet. my closet now has items that i fit and there is no crap lying around. i already have a list of to dos..

like i said one down and ten million more to go. let the nesting beginning.

Having a baby

I didn't realize that there are so many things to think about when having a baby..

For instance what to bring to the hospital.. To sign up for classes or not. and if so which ones. What the baby's room should be like. What to buy for the baby? now there are so many different options for just a stroller mind you that you don't want me to get started on what kind of car seat to get. but it's true and some of the stuff is more for parents and what they like and style. for instance i like this brand of stroller by bugaboo. but then when i really thought about it i decided against it. was i getting it because i really liked it or because i have seen it pop up in my instyle magazine and other celebraties using it. the other decision factor is that it's way expensive. so that wasn't worth it to me.

But it is fun going to babies r us with the hubby and deciding what we like and don't like. it's just hard because we want to make the right decision and don't want to buy the wrong item. or one that can harm the little guy. thank god we have some friends whom already had a baby and can ask questions to.

but i am not going to let all this take away from enjoying being pregnant or the fact that we are going to get to meet this mini guy in may!

Valentines Day - To Celebrate or Not..

I don't want to give the wrong idea about me not being a romantic. But aren't holidays supposed to make most people happy? I once had a close friend that this holiday seemed to make depressed. All because she was single and didn't have that special person. I try to do a little something for everyone. But it is still hard for me to this day to really celebrate a holiday that not only seems very commerical but that can make someone feel bad about themselves. So the hubby and i usually just exchange cards and I give a little something to the family. But I don't do more than that. Plus shouldn't you always treat your other half like it v-day everyday?

Friends and other halves

i guess you can pick your friends but you can't pick who they will fall in love with. you just have to hope and pray that they know what they are doing. i love L to death and can only wish her the best. and pray that the person she chooses to be with ends up being a good person. it's hard when you don't get the best of feelings/vibe when you meet someone. or that you wonder if they are really right for someone. or what are their 'real' intentions with your friends.

i guess i have always been the one out of the three of us that is harder on the guys that my friends chooses to be with. but with time i usually warm up and end up liking them.. or for some of those ex's still HATE with a passion. but very glad that they wake up and smell the coffee. it's just i feel that it should come natural on feeling comfortable and wanting to be friends. but also i feel that the boys SHOULD be proving themselves to not only our friends that they are with but the other two friends. of course no butt kissing but honestly being somewhat of themselves and showing us that they are good people.

so what do you do when the guys start off on a bad foot? obviously from what i have experienced lately he just avoids you like anything. and your friend doesn't really do anything to try and make it better.

therefore, i am trying a different approach to the situation. which is also a goal of mine for 2006. i am not the one that may or may not marry this 'interesting and different' person. which i have nothing in common with but L is our only common ground. and maybe that we both enjoy the arts. not sure if they are the same but we love the arts and music. so anyways, i am trying to be open minded and nicer to the person.. yes i am the type of girl that wears her emotions on her shelves.. (unfortunately if i do not like or trust you - you will know it. must be the cancer in me) but for L i will do anything to make her happy. cuz i know she would do the same for me. i know that she is the type that even if she doesn't care too much for the person she doesn't show you.. and that's not being fake but i will think of it as giving the person a chance. and try to just be friends but i will only go so far Less than halfway because to me he should be the one trying not me. i am giving this a couple months to see how this goes... but if i don't see a difference then we'll cross that bridge when we get there.