Is there such a thing as a 'favorite child'??

I would have to say yes from experience. You know for all new and old parents you really should stick to only 1 or 2 children. Because let me open your eyes to something that you think we (the children) don't know. We know if we are your favorite or 'black sheep' children.

My sister was and still is my mom's favorite child. And lucky for my bother he is the favorite with my dad. They both can do no wrong in my parents eyes. So where does that leave me? From my dad's own mouth I am the black sheep of the family. I wasn't liked because I was from day one opinionated and 'talked back'. So I was not only the 'bad' one but the one that was the smarty pants or the child my parents couldn't control. But you know if they ever took a second to think about it. The only way for me to get attention is to do something 'bad'. And to put the cherry on the sundae I am also the middle child. so the saying goes is true.. i was never as good as my older sister and i was the bad influence on my brother.. now i don't know how that applies because i was never caught stealing or stole a car.. So i don't know how I showed him it was okay. I am not perfect by all means but I don't feel that I was the worst child you could have. But because of all this I do know in my teenage years I felt that my parents owed me. They owed me for all the times that their eyes shined and showed how they were so proud of my sister and brother. because i never got that.. i can't remember a time that they looked at me the way they did with my brother and sister.

now as i look back to the past and present.. i feel that i sometimes can revert back to how i felt when i was a child and teenager. i can remember closing (or slamming-lets be honest) the door and just crying into my pillow wishing that i had different parents. ones that would appreciate me for me. now i don't cry into my pillow but i do think god we are all in our thirties and my mom still has my sister as her favorite. and i can see that she still acts like a teenage and so on. but that's a whole different post.

now on the positive... there's always a good to the bad right? so i feel that by my parents being the way that they were with me i learned to not rely on anyone but myself. i feel that i have done well for myself. my husband and i paid for our wedding, bought our first house together, had a baby, sold the condo and now moving on to our second home. that hopefully will be our last. and we are doing it for the most part on our own. now don't get me wrong i am grateful that my mom is letting us stay with her while we have been in transition. but i am who i am because of all that i have gone through in life.

so please try to remember that when you have a 'favorite' the other children know! ;-P try to treat everyone equal.