how the heck do people do it everyday let alone more than 5 times a week.. let alone how do you make the time to work out. i am struggling to stick to my at least three times a week.. but the only time that i have is during my lunch time. because before work i need to get myself and mason ready for work and daycare. i barely have time to get myself ready - i am sure my co-workers think WTF is wrong with our admin? she doesn't dress to impress and i really want to dress cute and style my hair.. let alone have the time to put make up on. but where do i start??? therefore why i made the decision to work out at least three times a week. i am hoping by working out that i get back into shape. i know i also need to eat better which i am trying. so far what seems to work is after putting mason to bed.. clean the house or stay and hang out in my room. this way i am not near the kitchen and won't think about what snacks to eat. and i want to see friends for lunch to stay connected. so i owe it to myself to get back into shape.
after writing this post it is reminding me why i need to stick to working out as little as i have promised.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Tales of Potty training and fighting...
It has been an uphill battle to potty train this kid. M is so much like D and myself... So with M like me I need to make him feel it's his decision and choice to go to the bathroom. Not me telling him to do it. in the beginning around 17 months he wanted to use the potty and was happy with just a dance or clapping. So we decided to just put him in pull ups during the day and night time use diapers.. Now he is almost at 34 months... When we started the new daycare at 32 months we went to UNDERWEAR!! I was so nervous and never thought that my son would have more than me.. but we needed spares and ones that we didn't care if we threw out.. so after countless wet and soiled underwear/pants cleaning he is getting it.. (crossing fingers)
He is now telling us that he needs to go and we only tell him to go when we go out or before eating a meal. Now we need to train him to go on his own but I have learned these important items with my son:
1. DO NOT pressure him.
2. Do not punish him for making a mistake. Just say it's okay accidents happen. Let's clean up and maybe next time you'll make it to the bathroom.
3. Do a happy potty dance for when he goes and when he is still dry in his underwear.
4. End of day rewards.. Weather it be frozen yogurt, ice cream or just a dinner with the two of us.. Just to show how proud i am of him.
5. Every other day or so take him to toys r us and let him pick his prize.
He is a smart baby and catches on.... He knows how to work his mommy and daddy.
Fighting:
D and I need to work on not arguing so much in front of M. I see that it affects him more than anything. I feel so bad because he woke up so many times last night. Now if only I can get D to be on board that I am ALWAYS right train.. ;-P In all serious-ness I will work on not being so hard on D. He does do a lot for our family.
He is now telling us that he needs to go and we only tell him to go when we go out or before eating a meal. Now we need to train him to go on his own but I have learned these important items with my son:
1. DO NOT pressure him.
2. Do not punish him for making a mistake. Just say it's okay accidents happen. Let's clean up and maybe next time you'll make it to the bathroom.
3. Do a happy potty dance for when he goes and when he is still dry in his underwear.
4. End of day rewards.. Weather it be frozen yogurt, ice cream or just a dinner with the two of us.. Just to show how proud i am of him.
5. Every other day or so take him to toys r us and let him pick his prize.
He is a smart baby and catches on.... He knows how to work his mommy and daddy.
Fighting:
D and I need to work on not arguing so much in front of M. I see that it affects him more than anything. I feel so bad because he woke up so many times last night. Now if only I can get D to be on board that I am ALWAYS right train.. ;-P In all serious-ness I will work on not being so hard on D. He does do a lot for our family.
Daddy's Boy
You hear when you have a son that he'll be a mommy's boy. Well not with the Lams. M is a Daddy's Boy. Which it hurts sometimes but I have learned to take advantage of that. So when he wants daddy I will either read, watch a recorded show or just take a bath. I won't lie and say that it doesn't hurt when he screams 'I don't like you!', 'I want daddy not you', or 'go away'... But I know it doesn't mean he loves me less or doesn't ever want to be with me. Daddy usually is the FIRST one to run into his room when he wakes up crying or if he falls daddy is the one right there.. and I am more the type of parent that says are you okay? and if i see no blood i don't baby him. Although if he needs to cuddle, hug or just want me by him - i will. But I want to try and make him independent and not rely on me to always make things better. that in life you need to learn that when you want something 'you' need to make it happen. not feel it's owed to you or that someone else will do it.
Now lately since D went on vacation there will be times that he actually wants me over D. It's nice to know that I am wanted but I do know that bond M and D share is still there. Which I am grateful for. It's important to me that they have time for themselves and share their special time together. Also, if we plan to ever have a second baby it will make our lives easier by trading kids off and not having both children wanting the same person.
Now lately since D went on vacation there will be times that he actually wants me over D. It's nice to know that I am wanted but I do know that bond M and D share is still there. Which I am grateful for. It's important to me that they have time for themselves and share their special time together. Also, if we plan to ever have a second baby it will make our lives easier by trading kids off and not having both children wanting the same person.
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